Is it cabin fever?

Asrat learned 2 important lessons this week:

1. We do not cut our sister's hair (4 large cuts with the hair scissors) or mommy will be VERY mad and an early bedtime will result.

2. Swinging the jumprope in the living room next to the Christmas tree is a VERY bad idea.....and will make mommy mad too.

A farewell to a friend....

Our first friend from when we moved to this area, our beloved pastor, died this week. He would have been 88 years old tomorrow. He confirmed our son and baptized Asrat. He wrote a letter of recommendation for us for our homestudy. He helped me find a job up here. He's helped our family in so many ways, both large and small. He was a wonderful, active, vibrant man of God. He was instrumental in bringing Lifeteen to our parish. He was also very active in the business community and in jobs creation in our city. He had such a wonderful life. He will be very missed. His funeral on Friday was standing room only in the large Cathedral and even our Bishop cried.

Monsignor Cappo, we love you and you will be sorely missed.

God is good.....All the time
All the time.....God is good

Elliot Larson Civil Rights act....

Do you know what this is? I never did. It's an Act, passed in Michigan in 1977 to define civil rights; to prohibit discriminatory practices, policies, and customs in the exercise of those rights based upon religion, race, color, national origin. That's the condensed version - it goes on for 12 pages. I'm actually surprised that our state has it's own legislation on Civil Rights. Should it really vary from state to state? Could you have a basic civil right in one state, but not another?

Does your state have it's own Civil Rights act?

When you're going through hell...

The past week has been very busy. We are moving. We sold our home and have purchased another home in another neighborhood. We have to be out of our current home by January 15th. Yikes. Our new home is much smaller than our current home, so I have to figure out how to have a major garage sale with about 3 feet of snow outside. Since I'm in retail, the holidays are my busiest time and to say I work a lot of hours during 4th quarter is an understatement. But it is what it is. Winston Churchill said once "If your're going through Hell, keep going". That's what I feel like we're doing.

As our situation has unfolded, I'm heartbroken and sickened by the derogatory comments and characterization of our family, due to the color of my daughter's skin. That our family's economic stability could be thrown into turmoil due to small and narrow minded people who apparently aren't current on Civil Rights legislation is mind boggling. The ugliness of racism stands in direct contradiction to the very meaning of America. But we are fighting back. I feel like we are hunkering down and preparing to do major battle.

Racism...

"It demands great spiritual resilience not to hate the hater whose foot is on your neck, and an even greater miracle of perception and charity not to teach your child to hate."
---James Baldwin (author)

Our family experienced an incident this week that shook us to our core and turned our lives upside down. I trust that God has a plan for us, a purpose to come out of this. It's just very hard to see right now. I'm cognisant of the fact that our actions now are important - to show our children the importance of standing up for our beliefs, model our response to those who show ignorance and racial intolerance. Regardless of the cost.

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow!

It's been snowing for days now. We got about 12" in the past two days. 2-4 more inches scheduled for today, and 1-3" overnight. This part of living in the UP is hard to get used to. It starts snowing in October, and stops in late April. 7 months of continual winter can drive you a little bonkers! There is no planting in the ground in the spring until June 1st. It's not hot until mid July. And it snows again in October. We get an average of about 240", sometimes more.

When we lived in Metro Detroit, we got about 36", for comparison.

There are three places to go with kids in the winter when cabin fever hits and visions of "The Shining" are setting in: the library, the Kids Museum, and the YMCA. We have annual, sanity saving memberships to the Kids Museum and the YMCA. We are known on a first name basis at the children's section of the library. We have a mall, if you can call it that. There are about 30 stores, most of the tiny mom and pop variety. There are three main anchors - JCPenney's (where I work), Younkers, and Kohls. No food court, no play area, so not much of a distraction for the kids.

None of us are particularly winter, outdoors type of people. Except for A. She loves any kind of weather, hot or cold. She could play in the snow all day. People told us it was cruel to bring a child from Africa to the UP because of the climate. Obviously, they have never met a child like my daughter!

Some photos of our winter wonderland.

Books, Books, Books...

G is reading. She started spontaneously reading in July. We were sitting in the car, under a billboard, when she looked up and said "mom, what does "mix it up" mean?" It was a billboard for Culver's milkshakes. From that beginning, she has taken off. She spent maybe a month on easy readers. Now, she can read books without pictures for clues. At bedtime, she is trying to take over the reading of bedtime stories. Much to A's chagrin.

By the records, the girls are 18 months apart. In actuality, they are about 12 months apart. However, much that happens with artificial twins occurred with them. G is very, very tiny. A grew very, very fast. They have been the exact same size for over a year now. They wear the same clothes, the same size shoes, are the same height, and A weighs a pound or so more than G. Due to the similarities, I think we treated them very similarly. My peas in a pod. The dynamic duo. What one did, the other one did. We didn't really treat G like she was older or vice versa. They went to the same preschool.

A had a hard time with G going to Kindergarten this year. Our mantra has been "when you are 5, you will go to kindergarten too". Repeat. Over and over. A is not convinced that she is not being deprived in some way. Now G can read. And read extremely well. So A thinks that she should read too. But she is not there developmentally. She sees herself as THE SAME AS her sister, so she is bound and determined to try. She doesn't just want to tell the story from the pictures. She wants to read the words. When she can't, I try to help. Then she gets mad. G doesn't need any help, why should she? So I stop helping. Then she is mad at herself, for not being able to read. Sweetie, mommy couldn't read at 3. Daddy couldn't read at 3. G couldn't read at 3. It's not a contest or a race. You are not less than because you can't read. How can we fill that empty space inside that tells you you have to do everything perfectly or you are flawed, defective?

So we downplay G's amazing acomplishments, so as not to stir the pot. Wrong, I know. I've never seen a child read like this - ever. She is so far beyond her classmates with reading that her teacher is putting her in a program for gifted readers. They've never had a kindergartener in the program before. G has always been in love with words. She could talk at 9 months old, and used 3 word sentences by her first birthday. When she was 18 months old, there was nothing she couldn't say. And use correctly in a sentence.

G, we're so glad you have mommy and daddy's love for books. They will feed your mind, fill your soul. A, be patient. Give yourself time to grow up. Be our baby a while longer.